In Part 1 we learned about the importance of positive memories for marital success. We described some ways to invest by creating a shared story. Today’s strategy involves making new memories as a couple.
Life is hectic! It’s easy to put the most important person in our life on the back burner while we care for the immediate demands of each day. We reason that we have a lifetime to spend together so there will be time later to make up for it. But this only works for so long. “Getting away” isn’t about how long you stay, how far you go, or how much you spend. It’s about making new memories. It could be as simple as a picnic at a nearby park, a walk on a beach, or cuddle time on your couch while the kids are staying next door. Time together alone must be a priority. Some couples schedule a weekly or monthly date night to stay connected.
Believe me, I know how difficult this is to make happen regularly. Sometimes a month or two go by without a date with my wife. Sometimes we don’t even notice until we start to see the signs of drifting apart, and recommit to regular time together. The bottom line is that there has to be a commitment to prioritize time together (at home or away from home with out children) or life will start to gently (or not-so-gently) pull you apart much like Casting Crowns Sing about in their song Slow Fade.
While I was in graduate school time and money were scarce. Kim and I committed to get away for at least an overnight each quarter. This focused time together every three months kept us connected and helped us survive two difficult years. Our first daughter’s birth brought a new set of barriers to time alone. One of our first “dates” after she was born was when we shared a burrito while Rachelle slept in her car seat on the other half of the table. Now that we have two children, and they are older, that trick no longer works. We have to be more intentional and creative.
Tell us about your favorite couple get away or a creative way you and your spouse have squeezed in some couple time. Post a comment below.